Energy sappers: that’s what you probably call people who leave you feeling drained, even after a brief interaction. One of the golden rules of existence is ‘don’t bother others and don’t let others bother you’. Tough, you say? Well here’s how you can train to save your energy and stay calm and collected when you interact with different kinds of people.
Let’s start with this basic premise— the only person who can change the way you feel is you yourself; hence begin working on yourself.
1 Accept others: Work on accepting people as they are. We mostly reach out to people along with our prejudices and preconceived notions. We try to fix them in a frame, expecting them to behave in a certain way, and if they don’t, we get frustrated and our energy saps.
2 Offer as much as you can: If you are in a situation, instead of constantly thinking about what you will get out of the other person, ask yourself what you can offer him: a smile, a positive thought, a kind gesture, some understanding. This brings us to another golden rule in the energy game: if you give attention, joyfully, you will never feel sapped. Know that this was the time kept aside for that person, and he has taken it. It’s all in the mind!
3 Be comfortable: When we are in discomfort or not at peace with ourselves, or in a hurry, we tend to get irritable.
4 Know your limits: With respect to social conduct, know your limits beyond which you experience guilt or fear.
5 Conserve energy: Keep a watchful eye on yourself. Note whether you are indulging in being judgemental, calculative or manipulative—negative thoughts like these deplete energy.
6 Meet others as equals: Energy flows downwards. When we interact with others thinking we are on a higher ground, the energy will flow from us to them and it will sap us. Treat the other person as an equal, and see the difference. You might just come away unaffected.
Let’s start with this basic premise— the only person who can change the way you feel is you yourself; hence begin working on yourself.
1 Accept others: Work on accepting people as they are. We mostly reach out to people along with our prejudices and preconceived notions. We try to fix them in a frame, expecting them to behave in a certain way, and if they don’t, we get frustrated and our energy saps.
2 Offer as much as you can: If you are in a situation, instead of constantly thinking about what you will get out of the other person, ask yourself what you can offer him: a smile, a positive thought, a kind gesture, some understanding. This brings us to another golden rule in the energy game: if you give attention, joyfully, you will never feel sapped. Know that this was the time kept aside for that person, and he has taken it. It’s all in the mind!
3 Be comfortable: When we are in discomfort or not at peace with ourselves, or in a hurry, we tend to get irritable.
4 Know your limits: With respect to social conduct, know your limits beyond which you experience guilt or fear.
5 Conserve energy: Keep a watchful eye on yourself. Note whether you are indulging in being judgemental, calculative or manipulative—negative thoughts like these deplete energy.
6 Meet others as equals: Energy flows downwards. When we interact with others thinking we are on a higher ground, the energy will flow from us to them and it will sap us. Treat the other person as an equal, and see the difference. You might just come away unaffected.
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